Hey friends! I’m taking a brief pause from DIY projects and crafts today to get a little more personal. Yikes! 😉
When Meagan from The Charming Farmer asked me to join this DIY Mama blog hop and share how I balance blogging and being a mama, I was a little apprehensive. Okay, I was a lot apprehensive. I definitely don’t have it all together, nor do I have this whole DIY blogger and mom thing figured out.
Not even a little bit.
I’m going to guess I’m not the only one out there who doesn’t, either. Amiright?
Being a mom is challenging. Blogging is time consuming. Doing motherhood and blogging simultaneously isn’t a walk in the park, but it’s something I absolutely love doing.
If you’re new around here, let me share a little bit more about my journey to motherhood. It all started when my hubby David and I got married just over 4 years ago. He’s an amazing and caring man, and I’m so happy he chose me to be his wife! He doesn’t really share my love of DIY crafts and projects (however he does jump in when I need help!), but he’s incredibly supportive and encouraging when I have countless crazy craft and home decor ideas; just one of the reasons I love him!
We knew we wanted to wait a couple of years before starting a family, so we worked and spent all our free time together our first couple years of marriage. When we decided we would start “trying” for a baby, we had no idea how long it’d take. Not even a month later (on the day my niece was actually born), I found out I was pregnant!
Our sweet baby girl Jade was born in November of 2013. She is a little energetic fire cracker; she totally lights up our world! We love every minute with her, and love watching her grow and become a darling little girl.
A few months after she was born, I was struggling to “find myself” again. I had this new role as a mother and I just didn’t quite know what to do with it all. Life had changed a lot, and now I was home 24/7 with this little baby. I felt so alone each day, going about the mundane tasks of the housework. Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely love being a stay at home mom with Jade and I wouldn’t trade it for anything in the world; but I needed something else.
So, I decided to start sharing things I crafted and made, and to start a little blog! It’s been my outlet this past year, and has helped me feel like I have something for myself. Something I’m working on for me. And let me tell you, there’s no room to be selfish as a mama, so having this little blog was so incredibly important and meaningful. I think you other mama’s can relate!
In the beginning of my blogging journey, I went head on. I tried to do it all. I was trying to crank out 3 posts a week, all new material, link up to all link parties I could find, reach out to others on social media, etc. I found that after a few months, it was really taking it’s toll. I loved being able to be creative and share it all on my blog, but I was trying to do too much (which is what I always tend to do!).
I put waaaaay too much pressure on myself. While it was easier in the sense that Jade was still so young and not yet mobile (and slept a lot), I still was trying to do more than I really needed. I struggled with this being my hobby and also wanting it to be a career and help with the finances, and it almost caused me to just give up. More than once, in fact.
Contrary to what I try and tell myself, I can’t do all the things.
And that’s ok!
However, I’ve finally found some balance. Sort of. Now that Jade is a little older and is really active, I try to only do blog related work when she’s napping or after she’s in bed. It makes it difficult to stay on top of things, but I get to spend more time with Jade, which is why I’m home in the first place. We play and read books some of the day, and then we do chores together. She helps me fold the laundry (aka trying on all of mommy’s shirts and daddy’s socks), and helps empty the dishwasher. She also has time to herself, where she will read books quietly or play with her toys and I’ll have a chance to do a few other things around the house.
But when it’s nap time, it’s mommy work time. I get my rear in gear and get all my crafts and projects hammered out, as well as any photos taken while it’s still light. After Jade goes to bed, I work on editing photos and writing my posts. I’m never ahead, but I’m not too far behind. I like to call myself a professional procrastinator. However, I always get work done when it’s needed, even if that means staying up late to do so, which there have been many nights of here and there.
I think the biggest challenge of motherhood is making sure I’m doing all I can to provide the best for Jade. I’m not talking about food and essential things; I’m talking about social, emotional, and learning opportunities. I think every mom worries, “am I doing enough? Should I be doing more? Maybe I need to read to them more often.” It’s easy to get down on ourselves, myself included. I always try and be the best mom I know how to be for Jade, but I still fall short. Especially on days where I may need to do a few projects while she’s awake; I worry I’m failing as her mom. While it’s easy to think, I know it’s not true.
When it comes to being a mama, I’m no expert. When it comes to being a blogger, I’m definitely no expert. There are days where I struggle to find balance between the two, and some days I feel I’m only getting by. But, in the end, my daughter goes to bed fed, clothed, and happy. As I watch her sleeping over the baby monitor, I know I’ve succeeded in something today even though my blog may be left in the dust along with the dishes and laundry. I know that my job as her mom is the only thing that matters, and that makes my heart happy.
While I haven’t done a ton of kid based projects (yet!), there are a few you might enjoy. This DIY PVC Pipe Book Storage is such an easy project to complete, and is perfect in any kiddos’ room!
You can also make an easy felt banner for kids with just a piece of felt, a dowel, and some string! Jade loves to put up shapes and tell me their colors. It’s such a great learning tool!
We hope to have another kiddo someday soon, and by then, I’ll probably be posting a lot more kid-based projects and crafts. I can’t wait!
If I could leave you with one thought, it’d be this: live in the moment with your child, for they grow up way. too. fast.
Every moment is precious. Experience life all over again through your child’s eyes. They will teach you things you never knew before; you just have to be in the moment with them!
A huge thanks to Meagan for inviting me to join in on this fun and share my little DIY Mama “balancing act” with you! If you’d like to read what some other amazing DIYmama’s do to balance life, head over to their blogs below and be inspired!